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Patience – the missing skill

Patience – the missing skill


I have noticed that our generation – Generation Y – is very impatient.

We are used to getting things right now, in this particular moment, after not more than a few seconds. We have been growing up in times of changes, revolutions and crisis, so we had to develop ourselves as a generation able to react to all the new things and adapt quickly. Or at least that is our reputation…

High-speed internet. Smart phones. Touch screens or something else, newer, otherwise you are old-fashioned. There are many factors, which dictate to what extend and to what exactly we adapt. We read a lot of self-help books and we try to be modern and successful, we look for keys and answers, secrets and techniques for getting rich fast. Unfortunately, things don`t always happen so quickly.

One of the main characteristics of successful people around the world is their patience. It gives them the strength to go on after each failure. It teaches them how to make decisions, which will lead to positive results.

When we are impulsive, we often do not take the right decisions. Instead of being rational, well-thought, they often are emotional. Emotion, itself, is not based on facts, but feelings, which can be stronger or not so strong, they can last long or not and what is more important – they are always subjective. The decisions, which we make and which are connected to our business and we know for a fact that they concern other people too, should be not subjective, but instead – objective. That way we know we will not heart anyone from the people involved. We are all different personalities and therefore we cannot feel the exact same emotions at exactly the same time. That`s why we need to make sure we train ourselves to make rational decisions rather than emotional ones. We need to think over the facts before we proceed to make the real decision, write down all the pros and cons and even better find a more competent person to consult with. And that process requires patience, yes in the hyper busy and fast developing surrounding that we live in. It might sound a little too complicated, don`t get me wrong – I am not saying that it is not good to make up your mind quickly and completely on your own when deciding what to have for lunch today or if you should have a desert.

Let`s get back to patience. Why is it so important to learn how to be patient?

It happens often to not succeed at first when we take up something. We discussed already what failure is. “Different people, different ideals.”, says the Bulgarian author Aleko Konstantinov and even if it was many years ago, he was so right! We all accept the world around us in a different, unique way. It is easy to get disappointed by yourself, if you had expectations, totally inadequate to the situations and therefore different from the results. Our excitement in the beginning of performing a task can sometimes play a bad joke on us. If it is too strong and if the first time we try and we don`t get what we wanted, it can cause inner confusion, it can make us feel unconfident and develop an inferiority complex.

And after that, logically, just as little children do not touch the hot pan after they burnt their fingers, we also remember the pain from the first try and decide that there is no point of trying again.

So before performing any action, it is better to think about what our expectations are and go over all possible results. I don`t mean quit right there and then and just be negative, no! But we need to accept the fact that we might fail a couple of times and we will have to try again and again after that. Because if we do, the eventual disappointment will not be so big and will not have the power to make us give up on our goals.

Patience – to wait and see what will follow after the first try.
Patience – to try again if we did not succeed.
Patience – to look back and choose a few things, that we could have done a little better, different so we don’t make the same mistakes.
Patience – to learn from someone who has already done it, to find him and ask for help.
It all requires patience and it does take up time.

There are so many examples of people from all generations, who would not be what they are, if they have not been patient: Steve Jobs, Abraham Lincoln, Henry Ford, Bill Gates, Thomas Edisson, Donald Trump, Michael Jordan, Zig Ziglar, Robert Kiyosaki, Mary Kay Ash, Oprah Winfrey and many, many more…

If we continue to hope that success always comes HERE and NOW, when we want it, we – the fast speed generation – will bring the fewer number of successful people to this world.

But I am confident that we may be the generation which has the most ideas! So let`s try to be a little bit more patient…

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